Thursday, July 30, 2009

Message by Goerge Carlin

This is a master piece. If you have not read it, take the time to read it now. If you have read it, take time to read it again!

GEORGE CARLIN (His wife recently died...and George followed her, died July 2008)



Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate.


A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that
we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways ,but narrower viewpoints..
We spend more, but have less,
we buy more, but enjoy less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families,
more conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees but less sense,
more knowledge, but less judgment,
more experts, yet more problems,
more medicine, but less wellness.


We drink too much,
smoke too much,
spend too recklessly,
laugh too little,
drive too fast,
get too angry,
stay up too late,
get up too tired,
read too little,
watch TV too much,
and pray too seldom.


We have multiplied our possessions,
but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom,
and hate too often.


We've learned how to make a living,
but not a life.
We've added years to life not life to years.
We've been all the way to the moon and back,
but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor.
We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.


We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less.
We plan more, but accomplish less.
We've learned to rush, but not to wait.
We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.


These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.
These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes..
These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.
It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.
A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...


Remember;
spend some time with your loved ones,
because they are not going to be around forever.


Remember,
say a kind word to someone
who looks up to you in awe,
because that little person soon
will grow up and leave your side.


Remember,
to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.


Remember,
to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it.
A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.


Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak!
And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.


AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.


George Carlin

This article was contributed by Aya. Thanks dear...

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Walk a mile in my shoes....

Here is something to share and ponder with u all frens. I get this bulletin monthly from Personal Development Leadership Mgmt and is written by Dato' Lawrence Chan.

The most rewarding and beautiful thing in the world is to have true frens. True friends are like gems in any setting. They can be counted upon at anytime and anywhere. But, most people are often in such a hurry that they don't take the time and effort to cultivate true friendships with people.

To win true friends, one must develop EMPATHY for others. Empathy is the capacity to be involved in a person's thoughts or feelings. People who empathise are attractive in personality. As butterflies are drawn instinctively to flowers, people are attracted naturally to people who think or feel with them. To those who are happy, the very presence of an empathetic friend will seem to double their happiness. To those who are sorrowful, his or her presence will seem to half their sorrows.

In human relationship, people who build mental walls that cut others off live a dull, lonely and empty existence. To live a rich and rewarding life, these mental walls must be torn down and replaced with mental bridges that cross boundaries into hearts of others.

Wall are pulled down and boundaries crossed when we begin to "walk a mile in our shoes." When we do so, we start to understand why people feel, think and act the way they do. We will be able to see beyond their outward behaviour to the circumstances that caused it. If they are unpleasant in manners due to bitter experiences in the past, we understand them and thus, we will not judge them unkindly. If they seem rough or uncultured because they did not have the good fortune to go through the kind of childhood we had, we will feel with them instead of condemning them. This is EMPATHY in action!

Building bridges to a person's heart is like putting your boat to land on an island, going around until you find a "suitable spot". This spot is the area of a person's interests. His interests are what makes him "tick". To find the "spot" of his interest, you need to listen and understand the deep meaning of his spoken words and actions. Put youself in his shoes, feel his emotions and think his thoughts.

Don't be confused over sympathy and empathy...they are not the same. When you sympathise with someone, you FEEL FOR him and GIVE IN to him out of pity. In Empathy, you FEEL WITH and GIVE IN yourself to him because you really care for him. Few people like to be sympathised or pitied. However, most people will be deeply moved when they receive empathy from others.

Check yourself to see whether you are empathising as you shld or "walking a mile in their shoes"

a. as a son or daughter, how often do you feel with your parents the heartaches and headaches of raising and keeping the family going ???

b. as a parent, how often do you realise how much your children need your presence and your nderstanding of their needs???

c. as a husband or wife, how often do you stop to think how badly your spouse needs your time with him/her and the reassurance of your love for him/her ???

d. as a brother or sister, how often do you feel with the other members of your family their personal problems in life ???

e. as a friend, how often do you ponder over what your friends' dreams and aspirations are ???

f. as an employee, how often do you see yourself in your employer's difficulties and your colleagues' pressures of work???

g. as an employer, how often do you feel what it is like to be in your workers working environment, conditions and terms ???

When we truly feel with people and give ourselves to fulfill their needs, strong relationships and true friendships will grow and flourish.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

More hi tea piccies by ainon


Aya..the iron lady a.k.a de organiser



here we are...saffron brassiere

cosy ambience









2 m...

u lambat lah amin !

soo sweet....

Peng Huat why u hug the plate...diet???

sedapnya....

2 m lagi...mmg sehati sejiwa

Aya pakat dgn Peng Huat ek....sedondon

Sharifah Noraini

Sharifah's hubby


de m c




besday gal...sebak


Sunday, July 19, 2009

Hi Tea @ Ancasa Hotel 180709

Photos by Roslina n me...














Email from Aya :

My contribution in making it a success seemed small as compared to the BIG effort all of U put in, in coming to Ancasa. Yg jauh mmgla jauh, yg dekat pun mcm2 pulak yg kena diketepikan semata2 nak dtg.
Bcoz x dpt tinggalkan kerja, Sharifah had to come on Friday, tp dia dtg gak naik bas sendirian. Sporting pulak tu, simpan rahsia yg dia tu actually the SURPRISE GUEST walaupun ditanya..Salute U Sharifah! boleh jd PIC kami gak ! To me Sharifah mcm dulu, senyum matanya dan lemah lembutnya, mcm Sharifah kawan Aya yg dulu. Adib bukak rahsia yg dia dan Sharifah suka mandi dlm longkang kat umah Sharifah, in front of Sharifah's hubby..hey! janganla citer depan org! Wailed Sharifah...comelnya dia...kami seme ketawa. Sporting hubby senyum je. Our comments were, Sharifah n hubby mcm sama je muka depe, U make a hensem couple.
Faziah naik bas, Hatim naik teksi ke Ancasa. Bukan senang tu tau...Adib kene tinggalkan keje dan naik STAR....org2 minyak ni, sibuk tp baik hati. Sapa sangka Hatim nak datang? Azi managed to rayu her..I squeeled with delight as I hugged her tight. Hatim nampak mcm heroine Hindustan U...cantik, tak dimamah usia! Rugilah mamat2 yg x datang tengok Hatim. Amin nak ngorat Hatim, Hatim kata, sorilah Min, U dah terlambat 20 tahun...terkebil2 Amin...
Amin terdiam satu hari. Dulu masa kat umah Aya dia sibuk nak kuar citer bukak cawangan, kali ni Aya president of Only Wife Club diam je, sbb my 2 vicepresidents, Azi n Adib yg berhujah. Terkulat2 Amin.. I was sincerely happy to see Amin looking much better. Dah tembam pipi dia, sekali terpandang Aya cubit pipi dia tanda kasih seorang adik yg hepi sgt2 tengok abang dia dah sihat. Dengan Amin, Aya berani cubit, dgn Zul n Azmi, takut! Nanti kena silat gayung ! .Lagila Azmi dgn motor besar dia, lagi nampak gah n menggerunkan. .
Peng Huat so sweet...his patience in working hard to make his marriage works, buat Aya admire dia sangat2. Keep it up fren. U are a rare breed nowadays! A quotation I just read, Marriage is falling in love many times with the same person. Susah nak buat kan? Tapi not impossible.
Midah n Ani yg quiet, nmpak ayu and lembah lembut tp sgt jitu dlm semangat utk menjayakan ape2 demi persahabatan. Tengokla mcm mana dri last week lg, raikan Azahari di Sogo.. tis week Ancasa...U all mmg best!
Azi, U bakar majlis dgn gelak tawa n kelakar U...Azi kata, Peng Huat is so sporting, kalau mendiang Kesavan ada, dia mesti datang jugak..betulla. ..tetiba rasa miss dia.
Roslina pun first timer gak kali ni...sweet Farah her daughter joined us..mcm mana gaknya Ina? Nak dtg lain kali tak, or dah serik ikut kitorang yg swinging ni? Rasanya tidak, sbb Ina pun ketawa selambak bukan main hari tu...
Ainon seperti biasa live up to her name. Wanita bertulang besi..
Hopefully I have mentioned all. Minta maaf kalau ade yg tertinggal.
As for 1st August 2009, Aya menyusun jari sepuluh momohon maaf kerana tidak dapat bersama2 di rumah Azmah. I have to honour my promise to Razak.From honour I get trust. I need to conserve that in my marriage. In fact bukan je dlm perkahwinan, ngan anak2, dan dlm persahabatan gak Aya amat menitikberatkan honour and trust. Aya dah banyak kali used my weekends tis month to spend it with my frens. With the long list of guests I am sure I will not be missed. Tp seandainya I am in the viscinity that day, insya Allah Aya akan singgah ngan Razak bersama2.
Hope all of U have enjoyed the day. Kalau ada kekurangan maafkan ye! Next time org lain pulak organise, baru ade kelainan! I pass the baton to Ainon, take it girl! Sbb dia kan bertulang besi..